Many of us have experienced a frustrating situation: we’re on the cusp of reaching climax, the “Big ‘O'” is within reach, and suddenly our partner changes their approach, speed, or pressure, causing us to lose the moment. We withdraw from the pleasure, convincing ourselves that we may never achieve orgasm again. While it may sound dramatic, this teasing of ecstasy is a common issue because many people struggle to communicate their desires in the bedroom (or any other place where desire strikes). The following three steps can help ensure that your sexual experiences are satisfying for everyone involved.
Step 1: Understand Your Desires This might seem obvious, but a lot of individuals harbor shame and guilt around sexual pleasure, which prevents them from exploring their bodies or engaging in self-pleasure. I once had a client who revealed that she hadn’t experienced orgasm with a partner for five years. She believed she didn’t deserve pleasure and was hesitant to express her needs to her partners. It’s essential to recognize that EVERYONE deserves sexual pleasure. You hold the key to your sexual happiness, and learning how to fulfill yourself sexually independently is one of the most beneficial things you can do for your overall well-being. So, go ahead, explore your own body and don’t stop until you experience something truly incredible.
Step 2: Drop Subtle Hints For those who may be too shy to openly voice their desires, subtle physical cues can communicate your preferences to your partner or partners. Moan when the pressure or speed is just right. Move your hips in a way that indicates the level of pressure or direction you desire. A light tug on your partner’s hair or a gentle scratch on their back when they’re doing something right can be a telling gesture. Firmly grabbing their shoulders, arms, or hips when something feels good is also effective. Even whispering phrases like “Right there” or “Yes!” clearly conveys your approval.
Step 3: Be Direct If subtlety doesn’t work, asking for what you want outright provides clear guidance. However, it’s important to be respectful in your approach; demanding or ordering your partner can be risky unless you’re engaging in role-playing. Instead of saying something like, “let me give you a blow job” consider phrasing it as, “I love it when you take me in your mouth.” This is likely to be better received. If you still feel too shy to voice your desires directly, consider sending a sexy text or leaving a seductive note where your partner will find it. A message like, “I plan on being a little naughty today and might need a spanking later tonight…” sends a clear message about your desires. Your partner will likely be turned on by hearing your desires and will be open to trying them out. Most considerate partners genuinely want to please you and eagerly embrace the opportunity to bring you pleasure. So, speak up and embrace your desires!
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