Sexual desire is a natural part of being human, but how people experience it can be different, especially for virgins (those who have never had sex) and celibates (those who choose to abstain from sex for personal, religious, or other reasons). When they feel the urge to have sex, their emotions and thoughts can be complex.
1. Curiosity and Excitement
For virgins, the idea of having sex for the first time can bring excitement and curiosity. They may wonder what it feels like, how their partner will react, and whether they will enjoy it. Some might feel eager to experience something new, while others may feel nervous or unsure.
Celibates, on the other hand, might still feel sexual desire but choose not to act on it. They may feel a rush of excitement when thinking about sex but remind themselves of their decision to abstain.
2. Nervousness and Fear
Virgins often experience anxiety about their first time. Questions like “Will it hurt?” “Will I do it right?” or “Will my partner like it?” can cause worry. The fear of judgment or awkwardness may also make them hesitant.
Celibates, especially those who have had sex before, might feel a different kind of fear—fear of breaking their commitment or going against their beliefs. They might worry about temptation and whether they can resist it.
3. Guilt and Internal Conflict
Some people, especially those with strong religious or personal beliefs, may feel guilty when they have sexual desires. Virgins who were taught to wait until marriage might struggle between wanting to experience sex and wanting to stick to their values.
Celibates, particularly those who took vows (like priests or monks), might feel an inner battle between their natural urges and their chosen path. They may use prayer, meditation, or other activities to control their desires.
4. Frustration and Loneliness
Both virgins and celibates may feel frustrated if they strongly desire sex but have no outlet for it. Virgins may feel left out if their friends talk about their sexual experiences. They may wonder if something is wrong with them or feel pressured to “catch up.”
Celibates, especially those who are single, may struggle with loneliness. They might crave intimacy and connection but remind themselves of their commitment to abstinence.
5. Control and Empowerment
Despite these struggles, many virgins and celibates feel a sense of control over their bodies and choices. Virgins who wait for the right person or moment may feel proud of their decision. Celibates who stay true to their vows may feel empowered by their discipline and dedication.
Conclusion
Wanting to have sex is normal for both virgins and celibates, but their feelings can be mixed with excitement, fear, guilt, frustration, or even empowerment. The key is to understand and respect one’s own choices and comfort levels. Everyone’s journey with sex and intimacy is different, and what matters most is making decisions that feel right for them.