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Three Questions To Ask If You Are To Stay Or Leave A Relationship

We often talk about the problems of cheating in relationships but don’t discuss the dangers of self-deception as much. Self-deception involves lying to oneself, and it’s not always easy to recognize or confront. There are two common forms of self-deception in relationships:

  1. Staying in a Relationship Out of Fear of Loneliness: Some people remain in a relationship because they’re afraid of being alone. This isn’t necessarily driven by a desire to hurt the partner; rather, it comes from a sense of weakness, lack of confidence, and a genuine wish to be kind.
  2. Staying in a Relationship Due to Fear of Partner’s Reaction to a Breakup: Others stay in a relationship because they are terrified of how their partner might react if they break up. Again, this is often rooted in a fear of causing upset, not malice.

These self-deceptions aren’t about being morally evil; they stem from feelings of vulnerability and a desire to avoid hurting others.

To unravel these self-deceptions, consider the following questions:

  1. Can you imagine someone better? Assess whether your partner’s faults are within the realm of typical human imperfections or if they seem unusually problematic. Stay in a relationship when you believe everyone has flaws, but leave if you sense there could be a better match for you.
  2. Which feels worse: being alone or being with the wrong person? If the idea of being alone is unbearable, it’s challenging to evaluate your partner objectively. Being contentedly single is crucial for a healthy relationship. Reflect on the challenges of being with the wrong person to make a clear choice.
  3. Given a magical tool to end the relationship painlessly, would you use it? If the thought of painlessly ending the relationship is tempting, it might indicate a fear of upsetting your partner rather than genuine love. It’s important to make decisions based on what’s best for both parties, not just to avoid personal discomfort.

In conclusion, understanding self-deception requires courage. It’s not always about being bad but often about being scared. True self-knowledge demands bravery, especially when it comes to facing uncomfortable truths about our relationships.

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