Backdoor Sex: Enjoying Anal Sex

Anal sex positions can be compared to a roller coaster ride in the bedroom – some find it thrilling, while others may find it intimidating. Reasons vary, from bad experiences to stories heard from friends, or just plain curiosity. Many people simply decide it’s not for them.

But fear not, we’re here to provide information without pressure. Our aim is to discuss anal sex positions within the context of consensual and loving relationships, without judgment and with a touch of humor.

Communication Before Trying Anal Sex

Communication is crucial when venturing into new territory in the bedroom. It’s like learning the steps to a dance; you wouldn’t want to tango without knowing how, right?

Informed consent is essential. It means both partners are fully aware of what they’re getting into, how, and why. It’s about transparency and avoiding surprises or mixed signals.

Think of it as playing the game ‘Telephone’ from your childhood. Messages get mixed up as they’re passed along. Don’t let that happen with anal sex; keep communication crystal clear.

Emotional intelligence also matters. It’s about understanding and managing both your own and your partner’s emotions. Just like cooking, you wouldn’t add salt if your partner dislikes it. In the bedroom, it means reading your partner’s comfort levels and making decisions that make both of you feel good.

Preparation and Safety Before Anal Sex

Now, let’s talk about getting ready. We’re not talking about choosing the right playlist (although that can help!).

We’re focusing on the ABCs of preparation and safety:

A – Awareness: Know what you and your partner are comfortable with. Trust is the foundation, and awareness is like the sturdy walls of a house. It’s the basis of vulnerability.

B – Basics: Use the right materials, like lube, protection, and relaxation techniques. Understanding the anatomy involved is also crucial.

C – Comfort (Mirror Neurons): These brain cells are responsible for empathy. They let you gauge your partner’s comfort levels without them saying a word. If you’re ever unsure, take a moment to look at your partner.

Dealing with the Unexpected: Life is full of surprises, and not all are wrapped in shiny paper. If something doesn’t go as planned, be patient, be gentle, and remember that perfection takes time.

The Best Anal Sex Positions

Whether you’re a beginner or experienced, we’ve got you covered with some anal sex positions:

Stage 1: The Explorers (for beginners)

1. The Spoon: Lie on your side, and your partner enters from behind.
2. The Lap Dance: Sit on your partner’s lap, facing away, and control the action.
3. The Lying Down: Similar to The Spoon but with both partners lying flat.
4. The Sit and Straddle: One partner sits on a chair, and the other straddles, facing forward.
5. The Side Saddle: One partner lies on their side, and the other enters from the side.
6. The Gentle Arch: One partner lies on their back, slightly arching, and the other enters.

Stage 2: The Adventurers (for those with some experience)

7. The Modified Doggy: A twist on classic doggy style for support.
8. The Stand and Deliver: A standing position with support.
9. The Leg Up: One partner lies down while the other lifts a leg for entry.
10. The Bridge Builder: One partner lies down, and the other stands between their legs.
11. The Kneeling Lean: Both partners kneel, facing each other, for intimacy and control.
12. The Tabletop Tango: The receiving partner lies on a table while the other enters from the edge.

Stage 3: The Pioneers (for those with more experience)

13. The Gravity-Defier: One partner lies down, elevating their legs, while the other stands facing them, holding onto the legs and entering.
14. The Sensual Scissors: Both partners lie on their sides, scissoring legs together for entry.
15. The Reverse Cowgirl (or Cowboy): One partner sits on a sturdy surface, and the other sits on their lap, facing away.
16. The Fusion: Lie on your back with legs up; your partner enters.
17. The Acrobat: One partner bends over at the waist, and the other enters from behind.
18. The Tangle: One partner lies down with legs up while the other kneels in front for support.

Remember, consent, communication, and trust are paramount. Explore safely and at your own pace.

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